tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post3412414815277987959..comments2023-08-29T09:03:19.065-05:00Comments on Just Another Jenny: Open to LifeJennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13472686909226073213noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post-12257261300037634912014-10-20T23:24:48.509-05:002014-10-20T23:24:48.509-05:00Me too. It really feels like Francis is a part of ...Me too. It really feels like Francis is a part of our living family story. I have to thank my sister-in-law for the model of how to deal with miscarried babies. She'd had a couple of miscarriages before Dom and I were married and they pray for their babies every night at family prayers. Dom and I sometimes joined them for prayers when we were dating and engaged and of course after they were married if we happened to be visiting near bedtime. Dom's sister and her husband are a constant inspiration to me when it comes to living the faith with kids. Melanie Bettinellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12557248434888642114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post-23587774040586258712014-10-20T16:35:18.043-05:002014-10-20T16:35:18.043-05:00Why on earth does Blogger keep eating my comments?...Why on earth does Blogger keep eating my comments?<br /><br />Anyway, my emotional readiness is irrelevant at the moment thanks to finances (stupid finances) so it's likely that at minimum Current Baby will be 2 years old before we have another. Right now I cannot imagine taking care of both him and another child, but there is a vast difference between an 11-month-old and 2-year-old, and besides there's no guarantee I'd become pregnant as soon as we start trying anyhow. (And I change my opinions every time I see an actual newborn. TINY SQUISHY BABY SO CUTE MUST HAVE ONE.)The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post-77943097142169483632014-10-20T15:35:21.095-05:002014-10-20T15:35:21.095-05:00I definitely recommend getting used to the current...I definitely recommend getting used to the current baby before thinking about the next one. No reason to have baby after baby as quickly as possible unless that's what you want to do or is what happens in real life. You shouldn't feel like that is the expectation for you to be "doing it right." <br /><br />For myself, the earliest I would want be pregnant with the next baby has never been before the current baby was 18m old. And I am fairly lucky in that my fertility works in a way that spacing at least that far apart is not too much hassle.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13472686909226073213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post-7898240744086781012014-10-20T08:54:18.556-05:002014-10-20T08:54:18.556-05:00That story just about made me tear up, Melanie. I ...That story just about made me tear up, Melanie. I love that Anthony learned about Francis not from people who actually remember, but from the other children who have heard the story and integrated it into their lives and are now passing it down.The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post-64484193504491692762014-10-20T08:52:57.431-05:002014-10-20T08:52:57.431-05:00I have a little sister who is 8 and a little broth...I have a little sister who is 8 and a little brother who is 3. Shortly after Matthew came along, Teresa informed Mom that they should get another baby and it should be a girl. Mom said that she thought one baby at a time was enough. Teresa said, "Two babies would not be too much work for me!"<br /><br />Right now we are still rather in the phase of getting used to having one baby before we think about the next one (even though the "baby" is now 11 months old!) but I hope that eventually he ends up the first of many and has the expectation that babies are just something that happens. The Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04559244806125834569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2940375117370631601.post-31595627279329066782014-10-18T22:53:19.763-05:002014-10-18T22:53:19.763-05:00"According to Grace, there is no reason why y..."According to Grace, there is no reason why you wouldn't want another baby. And this is how I know we are raising our children to be open to life." Beautiful. It's amazing how what our children absorb most is not the words we preach at them but the example we set by our lives and our unspoken attitudes. <br /><br />Our pro-life conversation tonight was about Baby Francis, the baby I miscarried between Bella and Sophie. We pray for Francis every night at our family bedtime prayers. Tonight Anthony asked, "Who is Francis?" and the other kids chimed in saying, "Your big brother or sister who is in heaven." And then we talked about how big Francis was: As big as Lucy? No, much smaller. Oh like when Lucy was newborn? No, much, much, much smaller. And we held our fingers very close together. And so they know without a doubt, without even thinking about it, that unborn babies are people too, that size doesn't matter. And that losing a baby isn't the worst thing that can happen because our baby isn't "lost" but continues to be a part of our family and will be waiting to greet them when they get to heaven someday. Melanie Bettinellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12557248434888642114noreply@blogger.com